Meditation helped Sita Rebizant overcome her trauma of living with a narcissist.
Now the Clearwater author is hoping to help others do the same with her book, Safe, Loved and Free, which details how she used the law of attraction, meditation and other methods to change her life for the better.
The book, published last November, also offers teachings and exercises to dig through the negative thoughts that influence their lives. If a person believes deep down that they are not deserving or have feelings of guilt, all the positive thoughts and visualizations won’t manifest, she said.
“It’s like unclogging a pipe. My approach is, we’ve got to clear that stuff and then you don’t even have to visualize it, all the good stuff will just come rushing to you,” Rebizant told the Times. “Every aspect of your life is created through your thoughts. You simply change your thoughts, and you change your life.”
Rebizant moved to Germany as part of an exchange program through the University of Winnipeg in the late 1980s. It was supposed to be for a year, but turned into a 17-year stint, in which she taught English, and opened her own school.
She also met a man and got married. The two moved to France when her husband was transferred for a two-year work stint and had a child together.
It wasn’t an easy transition for Rebizant, who was deeply unhappy. When she tried to speak with her husband about it, he’d get angry. She couldn’t wait to leave at the end of the two years but when they were up, her husband told her he had signed a one-year extension.
“I remember feeling like I couldn’t breathe,” she said.
Fed up, Rebizant moved back to Germany with her son in 1998, leaving her husband behind. She was surrounded by her friends again, regaining her confidence and enjoying her newfound freedom. Six months later, her husband followed them to Germany. By then, though, she knew she didn’t want to be with him.
Rebizant had begun her healing journey.
The pair divorced in 2004 and Rebizant moved back to Canada with her son. It wasn’t until about 10 years later in Winnipeg when she read a book called The Sociopath Next Door that she realized she had married a narcissist.
“Anybody who’s been through narcissism, in marriage or any kind of relationship, would probably feel similar, you feel like, ‘Nobody’s going to believe me, he’s going to read this and I’m going to get in trouble. People are going to be mad at me,’” said Rebizant. “Those are just some of the beliefs when victims of narcissists decide to speak out.”
Back home, she began teaching the law of attraction and meditation through classes, which evolved into workshops.
She felt the need to write a book in able to reach more people and used her divorce to illustrate how she learned to let it all go.
She began writing in 2014 and found it was a form of healing. Rebizant said she felt a lot of inner resistance and anxiety and would write in “spurts,” finishing one chapter and closing the laptop, before moving on to another task. At the time, she said she didn’t recognize it as anxiety.
“I’m writing about this whole faith journey healing process that I went through during my divorce, and then the book writing ended up being another whole trauma healing,” she said.
After five years of writing and revising, feeling the book was never quite right, a feeling came over Rebizant in 2019. It allowed her to let go and realize that “it’s never really going to be exactly where I’m at” because she’s just not that same person anymore.
“That was huge,” said Rebizant. “I wrote, ‘My book does not have to be perfect.’”
She and her current husband of 10 years, John, moved to Clearwater in 2016 after her son started attending the University of British Columbia. Her relationship is happy and healthy and is a product of law of attraction, she said.
“I’ve put it all to practice myself — I live it,” said Rebizant. “It absolutely works.”
Safe, Loved and Free is available for purchase locally at Buy-Low Foods and Old Town Gift Shoppe, or online through Amazon, Barnes and Noble and Chapters. The book was self-published through Balboa Press, a division of Hay House Publishing.
Those interested can find more information on Rebizant’s website at iamsita.com.